Update…It’s been such a long time…

   Posted by: John   in Family

Extra points for knowing who sang ‘It’s been such a long time…”

Seeing that is has been a very long time since I have posted anything, I suppose I should briefly catch up on events of the past 18 months.

First, I got divorced. 22 years, gone. The only thing I feel bad about is my 15 year old daughter. She is living with her mom, but spends quite a bit of time with me. Since her mom is actively out dating, my daughter sees a lot of guys around the place. And, since my ex is into messing around, there is a goodly amount of that going on as well. It does not make me very happy.

As for me, I am engaged. My fiancé is someone I have known for nearly 10 years. We had never dated before the divorce, but it seems that we have known for some time that we were going to be together. We just had never said or done anything about it.

In reality, I knew a very long time ago that my first marriage was not going to be the rest of my life. We just never really clicked. Oh we had some fun times and we had kids together, but we just didn’t like doing things together. And when it came apart, it came apart. That’s OK, I am not broken up about it at all. I have come to realize that getting away from a bad situation is good for the soul. Sometimes it takes a seriously strong kick to make the change.

My fiancé, Laura, is absolutely amazing. As I said, we have known each other for about 10 years. Her kids and my kids have known each other that long as well. That does not make it weird at all.  Our kids are all very happy for us. Her marriage ended a couple years ago and she had pretty much resigned herself to a life alone. However, we found that we had very strong feelings for each other and decided to go with them. It is the best thing ever! Both of us have never been happier in our lives. Aside from being in love, we also have respect for and absolute trust in each other. That’s the way it should be. And with us, that’s the way it is.

Laura is an amazing cook. She has some incredible recipes, things I had never tried before, like corn patch casserole (chicken, corn, cornmeal and who knows what else). She makes a homemade spaghetti sauce in the crock pot that is incredible. The broccoli salad is fantastic. It is so nice to come home several nights each week to supper being made. And, on the days she works, I make the meals so she has that luxury of arriving home to supper.  Of course, we often make our meals together and we also clean up and do the dishes together. That’s one thing I remember fondly from my grandparents, them working together to get the kitchen work done after the meals.

Laura takes care of the house and it is always clean. Not just clean, but sparkling clean. Everything has a place. The inside of her closet (and my dresser) look like clothing racks and shelves at Dillard’s. There is no lint or dust sitting around. Cleaning house is therapy for her and she does it well. There is no way I can emulate that level of OCD (and she admits she is OCD about it) but I do everything I can to make sure I put things away, do my part with the cooking, dishes, laundry, etc. (I don’t fold shirts. She has a way of doing it that I can’t duplicate and she will refold them anyway, so I leave them for her. She’s OK with that, flattered that I appreciate the way she does them.)

There is so much more, but most of all we love each other. And in a few months we will be married. That will be a fantastic day, one I look forward to.

Aside from the amazing relationship, I have been very busy with projects around the house. There has been a ton of stuff to do, some of it very necessary, but also some that make a difference in appearance as well as some ‘just because’ or fun stuff. I will be putting up some posts with some of these projects just because I am pleased with the way they have turned out. More important, Laura is happy with the results. And that’s the best reason to do them.

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I have a great deal of respect for the OCD (CDO for those obsessed with alphabetical order!) cleaning. I so wish I had more energy… But then again the house is old, and dusty, and in a constant state of repair… Then again, i work so much i just want to go to bed when i get home! I think I might just give up! I just can’t win! 😀

June 18th, 2015 at 8:45 pm

…and might I add that I am EXTREMELY happy for you! I already love Laura and haven’t even met her in person! It is so nice so see you so happy!

June 18th, 2015 at 8:50 pm

Only 8 days until you get to meet her in person! Can’t wait! Laura says she can’t wait to meet her sister!

June 18th, 2015 at 9:25 pm

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